Posted on Jul 6, 2011 in Sex | 24 comments
Shallow. Sex isn’t everything.
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But, uh…. he was right. And this is coming from a girl.
He’s right. Not that you should be pressured into sex, but at a certain point, you need to sack up and get it together.
I was the original poster. I am Muslim, in my religion it is a dishonor to your family to be sexually active out of wedlock. I had warned him before we dated about my religion and customs and he said he understood.
And he explained about his beliefs and customs, namely that without physical intimacy, you may as well be friends.
I don’t know what country you posted this from, but at least in the USA and I think also the UK sex before marriage is generally expected. If you’re not comfortable with that, it’s your right, but you’re probably not going to have much luck dating someone who doesn’t share that belief system.
Um, Rabbit? There’s over 2 million Americans who are Muslims. Some of them are very conservative when it comes to sex.
Your assumption that OP’s not American is rather ignorant.
Oh, BTW, there’s a lot of conservative Christians and Jews who hold the same views.
religions aside, a reltionship without sex IS just like being bestfriends.
Has no one here had a relationship without sex?
I have. It was just like being best friends.
She made her beliefs clear at the beginning, and thought he was accepting of them. Most everyone I’ve ever spoken to has said that they married their best friend, so why can’t you be “in a relationship” and sex-free best friends?
The person youre in a relationship with is supposed to be your best friend anyways, just a best friend you have sex with. You wouldn’t sleep with your real best friend, but you put as much trust in them as you would your lover.
Isn’t the whole point of being in a relationship to be with your best friend? Sex or not, they should be your best friend. Without sex… yeah it’s a friendship, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a relationship too!
I have been dating the same guy 4 years and we have not had sex. I am very religious, and he is not. If you love someone, you love them whether or not you have had sex. And anyway, you can kiss, hold hands, etc…you don’t do that with your best friends.
please explain why you think sex before marriage is a sin. and not because god says so. why do YOU think so?(not trying to start a religious debate, just trying to understand)
Wow your a pussy! Just fuck him already… Do you at least suck his balls?
Wow Anonymous, that guy is a CHAMPION
Do you suck his balls at least
im in love with my boyfriend and we have been together for a very very long time, and at the start i explained that i was virgin & that i honestly didnt want sex and even though i loved him if that was going to be a problem we might as well break up. he laughed, he is VERY experienced and has slept with past girlfriends, but he said that in the end he regret it each time, sex CAN ruin a good thing. and that in the end since it was my body it was my choice and he loved me for me, not what my body could provide. we kiss, we cuddle, we love one another, in the end what you choose to do is completely up to you, if your partner tries to argue what you believe and feel is right, they dont deserve you. and before someone makes a smart comment, all weve ever done is kiss, ive never even seen a dick first hand, and hes never even pushed me to see under my clothes or more, your body, ur choice.
no one cares! keep it short psycho
yes. he is right
Sex is only one part of what makes a relationship different from being best friends. Relationships also have attraction, other forms of physical affection, and romantic feelings of like/love. You don’t have to have sex to have a relationship. But he doesn’t have to date someone who’s not interested in sex.
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