Posted on May 3, 2011 in Sex | 30 comments
So obviously she needed to find a real man to do it…
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Ok, you didn’t like her fetish. So what? That doesn’t mean she needs help, YOU were the one who couldn’t satisfy her.
Don’t let people shame you for being a good guy. I happen to think there’s someone wrong with someone who wants punishment and humiliation. There are plenty of us girls with good self esteem who are lots of fun in bed.
someTHING wrong, sorry
Is it “ignorance”, “mediocrity”, and “mental laziness” when you do it, or just a simple innocuous mistake?
lmao its sad that im on this site often enough that i know exactly what ur talking about. good job
You’re right. The weather is getting nice now (at least in Boston). I think a lot of us would be better off spending time outdoors than surfing silly websites.
yeah, silent missionary in the dark twice a year is the only way to go. oh wait, no that is BORING AS FUCK. don’t be a vanilla, have some personality. you thinking something is “wrong” with a persons sexual preferences is wrong. IT IS JUST A PREFERENCE. Not satisfying her does not make him a “good guy” either. check your preconceptions and realize that eating the same bland chicken salad sandwich your entire life doesn’t make it good or better than a spicy Thai feast.
I figured you would understand a food metaphor.
Good lord, you can’t possibly believe that people who don’t hit and belittle each other don’t do positions, oral, or switch things up every time. And what’s the deal with the food remark? Do you get off on making passive-aggressive personal digs that aren’t even accurate?
Do you get off on not understanding a metaphor?
How did I not understand it? He thinks people who don’t abuse each other are boring, non-orgasmic AND fat. No X 3
You have the monopoly on useful ifnrmaotion-aren’t monopolies illegal?
I’m not saying you’re an idiot, Kacky, I’m just saying that you could probably use a little creative bondage.
it’s called a fetish, some like it like that and there’s nothing wrong with it, now it takes a lot more confidence to accept and realize those fetishes.
and hell, there are ways in which you could satisfy both ends.
being tenderly dominant pleases both ends in this kind of situation.
the guy just blew it.
like the girl outside of bed?, love her?, cope with her fetishes. it’s nothing wrong to have them.
Wow. I’m pretty sure there is a HUGE gap in between “silent missionary” and someone who has daddy issues that she needs to relive to get off. Erotic asphyxiation and the like are where I would draw the line, too. I’m not one to regularly criticize socially deviant behavior, but certainly this guy is not an ass for not being into that.
Seriously? While it may be a “fetish” it’s brought on by serious mental disorders, and lets be real here, being asked to torture someone you love, whether they told you to or not just sounds stupid. Has nothing to do with how much of a man this guy is or whether he’s a good guy or not. He’s just more or less stable…
“brought on by serious mental disorders” really? are you some sort of expert? I’ve studied psychology, including deviant sexuality and to me that statement reeks of opinion masquerading as fact.
anyway, why is everyone getting so snippy? Ppl like what they like. There’s no reason to judge just because it seems sick and perverse or if on the other hand it seems boring and unadventurous. If the person doing it is enjoying it, then who cares? It’s not hurting anyone who doesn’t want to be hurt. And if you don’t like it, then don’t do it. Who knows.. Maybe this girl does need help, or maybe she just needs to find a guy who respects and can fulfill her desires.
Because clearly questioning the validity of some one else’s arguement on the internet by saying you studied it clears up any confusion… on the internet. ” For some, taking on a role of compliance or helplessness offers a form of therapeutic escape; from the stresses of life, from responsibility, or from guilt. For others, being under the power of a strong, controlling presence may evoke the feelings of safety and protection associated with childhood.” Sounds like anxiety and daddy issues to me!
That argues that people with ‘daddy issues’ may tend towards this kind of sexuality, not that people who tend towards this kind of sexuality all have’daddy issues’.
Who are any of you to judge? They were sexually incompatible and so their relationship was bound to end regardless of any other possible factors. They had competing ideologies when it came to sexuality and nothing could have changed that. If you don’t agree with BDSM as an acceptable preference, so be it, but don’t shove your beliefs down the throats of others. As well, if you prefer the kinkier side of life, don’t judge the vanillas by their inability to accept you, they just cannot deal with it. In general, if it makes you happy it can’t be that bad. Whether you prefer it with the lights off or on, ball gag, whips, paddles, or always missionary, it remains a personal preference and it is prejudicial to claim that your way is the only “right” or “healthy” way, but you are always in the right to expect your significant other to accept you for who you are, and if they can’t, DTMFA.
wave it over here bro, your weak
Umm…I like to say to my guy “F@&% me like a whore” during sex. I do not have any “daddy issues” that aren’t outside the norm. It’s just that when I am really feeling it, I say racy things like that. And, my boyfriend has a foot fetish, and he isn’t mentally scarred either. I don’t mind if people think fetishes are weird, but when you call them mental, I think you are projecting a little bit of yourself onto them. If you are really into someone, you won’t care what their fetish is, just as long as they are enjoying it.
Your tiny, limited little mind cannot begin to fathom how much larger is the world she lives in.
A weak little man-boy with all the fire of a damp sponge is all you are.
dude….grow a pair.
Whats the difference in rape and rough sex now a days? Torture sex ftw loljk yeah im not into hardcore erotica either dude. Rough sex is fine but yeah ive found most of the girls who like this kind of sex to be very unstable and most of the time mentally distorted by past issues or drugs. Rough sex is ok but some girls want blood to be drawn and well thats weird. Not to mention when they scar your back with scratches or teeth marks.
I can’t blame him for not being able to get into it but it doesn’t mean she has health issues. The break-up was inevitable, they just weren’t sexually compatible.
Are you kidding me? The only way I can get off is rough sex. This whole “making sweet, soft love” bullshit does not work for me. At all, ever. Pull my hair, spank me, call me a whore, I don’t care. I dig it. That doesn’t mean I need help. It means I’m pretty fucking awesome in bed.
I agree that if you don’t mix things up in bed it will get boring, but I know a girls who loved all that choking stuff, and she almost died while having sex with her boyfriend because it got to carried away…
So yea she needs help.
I don’t blame him for not being into S&M and asphyxiation – but I do blame him for not being able to understand that everyone has distinct fetishes and they may or may not be influenced by outside forces such as the oft-cited “daddy issues”. I know a guy who has a foot fetish. Me, I hate feet, but if he likes looking at them in his spare time, whatever.
Maybe he could’ve met her halfway and gone with a little light bondage and dominance. Not all letters of the fetish alphabet have to go with each other all the time.
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